My Name is a Lie and Other Truths
We all build our lives on stories we accept as true — stories about who we are, where we come from, and why we matter. But what happens when the story you’ve lived your whole life turns out to be a lie?
My Name Is a Lie and Other Truths invites readers to look closely at the forces that shape us — the emotional inheritance we carry, the longing to feel fully seen, and the quiet work of making peace between the person we were told to be and the person we choose to become.
What begins with a single revelation unravels decades of certainty, pulling one man into a world of hidden loyalties, forbidden love, generational silence, and the unexpected freedom that comes from finally knowing the whole truth.
The result is a story that is gripping, human, and at times almost unbelievable — a journey that lingers long after the last page. For anyone who has ever wanted to feel whole, to feel seen, or to understand the story beneath the story of their own life, this memoir offers both a mirror and a way forward.
Pat Hicks is a Texas‑born memoirist whose work explores identity, emotional inheritance, and the quiet truths families carry across generations. His writing is shaped by a life spent navigating the distance between the stories we’re given and the ones we choose to claim.
Before turning to memoir, he spent years working in the real world — the kind of work that teaches you how people talk, what they hold back, and how much of a life can be lived between the lines.
His debut book, My Name Is a Lie and Other Truths, blends personal history with a search for belonging, tracing the fault lines between loyalty, silence, and the freedom that comes from finally knowing the whole story.
He continues to write about truth, family, and the lifelong work of becoming who we are meant to be.
Speaking and Events
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Talks and Workshops
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NPE / DNA Surprise Workshops
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Book Club Visits
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Key Note/Guest Speaker
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Conversations on Truth and Identity
Pat leads thoughtful, grounded conversations about the stories we inherit, the truths we uncover, and the identities we build in their aftermath. These sessions explore belonging, emotional inheritance, family secrets, and the quiet work of becoming who we really are.
Ideal for book clubs, NPE/DNA‑surprise communities, genealogy groups, and organizations interested in the deeper questions of self‑story and personal truth.
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Future Offerings
retreats
writing workshops
memoir coaching
identity storytelling sessions
corporate talks on authenticity and resilience on goes here
Reviews
“….a difficult, delicate, and intimate story of discovering a startling and well-hidden family truth. While you may have never been in his exact situation, every family has a similar story as a part of their legacy; if not in their immediate generation, certainly somewhere in a past generation….. a story well crafted and told….and ends this personal journey with hope. I found the tale to be emotional, gripping, and certainly thought provoking. It's a book you will think about long after you finish reading.”
“….this is really deep into a shocking personal discovery that resulted in tremendous internal analysis….great writing talents. [his] perception into the unmet needs of a woman and mother hit me hard, particularly as it relates to a married life lacking a partnership in responsibilities and childcare.”